Ahimsa

When I was younger, I carried the pressure of doing everything perfectly.
If something didn’t go exactly as planned, I spiraled — procrastination, frustration, and the kind of negative self-talk that chips away at your confidence.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned that done is better than perfect — and that taking gentle, imperfect steps is far more peaceful than waiting for everything to be flawless. With every year that passes, I’ve softened into a steadier acceptance of who I am and how I move through the world.

So when I first started studying the Yamas and Niyamas, I had this idea that I would move through them one at a time — slowly, deeply, intentionally. But here’s the truth:

There is no set amount of time that lets you “master” Ahimsa.
(Or any of the Yamas, really.)

I thought I’d spend a week on Ahimsa.
I was there for weeks.

Partly because I felt like I should understand it better… and partly because every layer revealed another one.

At first, Ahimsa (non-violence) seemed like the simplest Yama.
I mean — I’m not punching strangers, so what’s the big deal?

But the longer I sat with it, the more I felt something shift.

Understanding Ahimsa More Deeply

I was taught that the Yamas begin with what’s furthest from us — our behavior in the outer world — and that the Niyamas continue the journey inward, toward how we care for and relate to ourselves.

Because of that, I initially assumed Ahimsa was mostly about avoiding harm “out there,” in the realm of my interactions with other people.

But the more I sat with it, the more I realized that these boundaries between “outer” and “inner” aren’t as clear as they seem. You can’t separate how you treat the world from how you treat yourself. The two reflect each other constantly.

Ahimsa may be the first Yama, but in many ways, it pulls you inward right away.

And honestly?

It’s often easier to be kind to other people than to ourselves.

We’re conditioned to be polite, compassionate, socially acceptable — yet internally, the mind can be vicious. Mine has been a top-tier jerk at times.

Ahimsa doesn’t magically erase harsh thoughts, but it does teach you how to soften around them. How to pause before you attack yourself. How to choose a gentler tone, even when you’ve made a mistake.

Being Human Is Not a Violation of Ahimsa

Somewhere along the way, my mantra became:

“I’m not a saint.”

Not in a self-deprecating way — but as a reminder that I’m human.
I will mess up.
I will make questionable choices.
I will say the wrong thing or do the imperfect thing.

And none of that makes me unworthy.

Ahimsa taught me that I am — and always will be — a work in progress.
That growth is allowed to be messy.
That kindness is a practice, not a personality trait.

As long as I keep coming back to compassion — for myself and for others — every slip-up becomes a lesson, not a failure.

A Question for You

Today, I invite you to reflect:

Where can you loosen your grip, soften your expectations, and allow your imperfections to be part of your path rather than proof you’re “not enough”?

Let your mistakes be evidence of your growth — not obstacles to it.

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